This will be quick, but long

I need to make an update entry. I've been gone for 4 days, but it feels more like 2 weeks. I won't be doing Thursday Thirteen today, I just dont have enough time. ~~~~~~~~~~ The funeral is over and we are starting to get back to our routines and somewhat normal lives. I went to change some things yesterday in my online photo albums and was sending some pictures out. I almost sent one to Grandma Harmon, it's just a habit to send her new pictures when I get them! It made me sad that she wouldn't get to see these, but now she sees everything so it's okay. ~~~~~~~~~~ Work has been really, really busy. I have an aunt and uncle that are moving back here from St. Louis and I've been helping them to find a house. Also a couple of the guys on my team have been gone this week, so I've really been having to juggle a lot! ~~~~~~~~~~ John's oldest brother Richard is coming this weekend with his 5 kids and fiance Trish. They will be here for 10 days and we will be spending a lot of time with them. That means daily trips back and forth to the MIL's house. At least with so many people there I don't have to talk to her much. Now if I can just avoid Melissa a bit I'll probably be okay! ~~~~~~~~~~ We have tickets for Friday night to go and see Brian Regan! We are soooo very excited. He is our favorite comedian and we can hardly wait for the show. John's been counting down the days for the past week. ~~~~~~~~~~ My Grandpa has a stroke yesterday and is in the hospital. He's 6 hours away though and we won't be going to see him. They are going to keep him for a few days and then release him. Thankfully it's not anything more serious. Not that a stroke isn't serious, but it wasn't so bad he won't be able to move ever again or anything like that. ~~~~~~~~~~ I was tagged like a million years ago to do a meme and haven't had any time. I didn't forget about you, I promise I'll get to it before the week is over though. I'm supposed to include some pictures, but I don't have a lot that are on my computer, so I might have to modify it a bit. ~~~~~~~~~~ Katy has a runny nose, I've got a stuffy head and sore throat and John woke up this morning with a cough. We are all catching a cold and it stinks! I can manage when just The Bug gets a cold, but when all of us have it, it's just downright miserable. Especially because I have to take care of all of us. ~~~~~~~~~~ I'm still working on getting my scrapping corner cleaned up and organized. It's such a mess right now and in two weeks we are donating a bunch of stuff to the Deseret Industries, so I have to have it done by then. I didn't realize how much CRAP I've got sitting around not being used. If I don't get it all cleaned up, John says he will just start throwing stuff away! I know he will actually do it, so I really have to get cracking. ~~~~~~~~~~ Send some sugar over to SugarMamma. She just found out she will be having a new lil' bean and she needs all the positive energy she can get. Even if it is cyber energy! ~~~~~~~~~~ I think that is all for now. I will try to make it over to everyone and get caught up. Thank you all for your thoughts, prayer, kind works and virtual hugs. They have been so very helpful and some of them I have re-read just to get a bit of a pick me up. I have laughed, cryed, and felt joy when receiving all the support you, my wonderful readers have shown. Thank you again from the bottom of my heart!

Funeral Service

The viewing, the funeral service and the burial are all over with now. The funeral service was especially beautiful. The grandchildren and great grandchildren sang, my great aunt Karen gave the life sketch, my aunt Suzanne shared memories from all the grandchildren and a gentleman from the family history center spoke. They all did a wonderful job and I think it was just the way Grandma would have wanted. Her casket was beautiful, all pearly pale pink. John was able to go with us yesterday to the burial and I was so grateful! He is so good with Kathryn and was such a big help keeping her entertained and happy. We took the stroller and she kept throwing her toys out and yelling "uh oh" in the middle of the remarks. He faithfully kept offering the sippy cup and picking up all the toys. It seemed a bit drawn out with something three days in a row, but ended up being very nice. I'm just so grateful that we can get on with the grieving process and start to try and move on. It was kind of neat to make the drive to Paul and back home with my mom yesterday. Since she remembers visiting Grandma and Grandpa there, she showed us the house they used to live in and the pond out back that they were supposed to stay away from, but always snuck out to. She showed us were the post office was that Grandma worked at and told us how cool it was to not have to address anything. You could just put Eunice Harmon, Paul ID and she would get it handed to her each morning after the mail was sorted. Then we stopped in Blackfoot for lunch and Mom showed us the house she had lived in and the bridge her horse had gotten spooked on and almost bucked her off. We had a nice day doing a bit of sight seeing and talking with my mom. Her and I got into a long conversation about how things were so different growing up in the country versus the city. She has all these cool stories about horses and floating down the canal and the cool pets they had. My memories are all about the block parties and neighborhood kids. Then we talked about how different things were when Grandma grew up on a farm and helped her parents work it. How they had to do so many different things to make it all run smoothly and how they had to all work together. Grandma talked about her farming days a lot, so it was neat to see were some of it took place. We'll miss her and hold her forever in her hearts. She was a wonderful mother, sister, aunt, grandmother, great grandmother and great great grandmother. She touched so many peoples lives and helped so many people learn so much. I will always remember her wonderful example and try to follow it. She was a treasured part of our family.

She is Gone

~This post will stay at the top of my blog for a few days. Scroll down for the rest of my life~ Great Grandma Eunice Harmon passed away at 11:55 am 6-6-06 this morning. She is finally with the angels and resting peacefully.

We are so relieved that she is no longer suffering. Her spirit has left us and is walking among loved ones long since gone. I know she is having a wonderful reunion in heaven right now with Great Grandpa. She will be very, very missed by family and many friends alike. We will remember her love of genealogy, sweet smile, soft hands, warm heart and loving gestures. She will not be forgotten and will hold a very special place in our hearts. The viewing will be Thursday night. Funeral services on Friday and the burial on Saturday.

Thursday Thirteen - Great Grandma

Thirteen things about my Great Grandma Harmon 1. She always smelled good. 2. Her hands were always very soft 3. She had the most beautiful skin 4. She rarely went into the sun 5. Her legs were gourgeous, the nurses were always telling her she had the legs of a teenager. 6. She was kind to all around her 7. She was also stern and expected children to behave 8. Her passion was geneology and she was good at it 9. she loved teaching others about her passion 10. she could get snappy when she need to. she knew were she stood and she stood firm 11. she spoke softly, but with conviction 12. she loved her children and grandchildren and only wanted to best for them. 13. she always supported her children and grandchildren in their desicions, even if she didn't agree Links to other Thursday Thirteeners. Please only link if you have a current Thursday Thirteen, do not use my site to promote your other crap!! THANK YOU. Also no comments required, just glad you stopped by.

I've finally done it!!

I'm not as dumb as I thought I was. At least when it comes to HTML. The jury is still out on the remainder of my intelligence levels. John wanted a new template, but we couldn't find one that he liked. So I picked one that was okay, but needed some sprucing up. I figured out how to change the header image, the color of font and the footer image to what I wanted. I'm so proud of myself it's pathetic. Go check it out though and let me know what you think. Also I really love Pannasmontato Templates, they are so easy to install and modify. I wouldn't have been able to do anything if this wonderful gal didn't offer her templates for free use. I know it's not anything super fancy or cool, but John is way happy with it and that's what matters to me. Now if I could only find something cool for my own blog! While I'm on this subject, go check out Sugar Mamma's new look. I just love it!! ~~~~~~~~~~ On another note of something I've finally done! Melissa picked the kids up yesterday at Grandma's and she is supposed to be back into town by 6p.m. Surprise, surprise, she didn't make it until 6:35! I could have just screamed, but instead I was polite and just helped her unload all of Kathryn's stuff and told her thank you. I didn't say a word about her being late, or how I had a bunch of stuff to do and I was waiting on her. Double kudos to me!

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Saturday was....

Saturday was so nice. We got to do a lot of visiting with Bryan and Loralee. We also got to watch Ylexus and Michael for a while and that was fun. We had a BBQ that Cassi and I helped make for everyone. Mostly we just sat around and did nothing. Oh, we watched some home videos from when my Aunts and Uncles were little and that was pretty fun. I love stuff like that and it was funny to see the clothes they were wearing and the furniture. My mom was in some of them and she had these big glasses and crazy pants on. Great Grandma Harmon is still in a coma. We went in and talked to her for a bit. She tried to lift her hand when we were talking to her and she opened one eye. I'm not sure if it's her actually responding or if she is having some small spasms. I do know that her breathing changes when you go in and talk to her. She is now showing signs of heart failure. Again the hospice nurses are saying it won't be long. We'll see what happens. Cassi took Monday off, because we thought for sure the funeral would be that day. Since it's not going to be she is going to watch Kathryn on Monday for us. She has had Kathryn almost all weekend. She spent the night Friday and Saturday. She will probably spend the night again tonight. I've taken advantage and slept in as late as I could.

Second Update

Grandma is still in a coma. It has been four days now. The nurses are baffled as to why she isn't gone yet. She is having short periods when she quits breathing, but then starts up again. The family that is with her went in this morning and let her know that she can go. She doesn't need to try and hold on. Everything is taken care of and there is nothing for her to worry about. Yet she is still hanging on. She is still with us in body and spirit. We are going up again tonight to see her, if she is still here. I feel something is holding her back, but no one knows what. I hope she is released from this life soon. I want her to be at peace and be with our ancestors who have gone before.

Update and more venting

Once again I have something to bitch about with John's family. If you don't want to hear it look away! That's not my main focus today however, so I will start with Great Grandma. ~~~~~~~~~~ So far Great Grandma Harmon is hanging on. They have increased her pain medication, because there was some questioning of how comfortable she was. She is no longer on any oxygen and they will not increase her medication again. At least that is my understanding. I had a very strong feeling this morning that she had passed on. I haven't heard anything though and it makes me somewhat uneasy. It's hard to concentrate right now and I keep getting distracted. I feel like she is hanging on for some reason. I don't know if she is wanting to see someone that hasn't made it here yet, or what. It's kind of odd. My feeling this morning was also kind of weird. I was in that state between being awake and asleep and I saw a flash of her smile and she looked at peace. The I had a really strong feeling that the phone would be ringing any time and it would be that she was finally home. I then woke up fully and was just laying in bed wondering what that meant. I just talked to my mom and she hasn't heard anything and hasn't had a chance to call yet today. I'll try a bit later. ~~~~~~~~~~ Now on to the rest. Basically I've had it with John's sister. I don't know why Melissa tells me one thing and then John and his mother another. Here's what happened. Yesterday was my nephew Bryden's birthday. He is now four. I called to wish him a happy birthday and sing to him. He thought that was really cool. When I was done I talked to Melissa for a few minutes and told her that we wouldn't be able to make it to the birthday party on Saturday. Our dialogue went something like this: her - don't worry about it. I know you guys are busy and have a lot going on. Thanks for letting me know ahead of time. me - we will most likely be at a funeral this weekend. If not that we will be spending it with my family. her - okay, I'm sorry to hear about your Grandma. Let us know if we can do anything to help. me - thank you. I'll keep that in mind, but I'm sure we will be fine. her - okay, but really don't hesitate to call if you need anything. Even if you just need to talk. me - thanks. Oh, by the way. We won't be bringing a gift for Bryden, but maybe we could get together next weekend. We just can't afford it right now with everything else that is going on. her - don't worry about it. I've asked people to not bring gifts. Especially toys, he has way too many. I don't even really want to do the party, but Travis says we have to. His family won't let us get away with NOT doing one. So yeah, whatever. If you guys want to great, if you can't that's fine too. Like I said I don't really want to have a party and he doesn't need anymore toys. me - well I better go. We'll talk to you guys soon and maybe we can get together after things slow down a bit. THEN, this morning John calls me. him - what did you tell Melissa yesterday about us not going to the party? me - I told her we couldn't make it because we would probably be at a funeral. him - is that how you said it? me - yes, WHY? him - because Melissa told my mom this morning that she didn't understand why we couldn't be there. She said you were too vague and that you didn't give her a reason. me - I DID give her a reason AND she said it was no big deal whether we are there or not. him - okay. Did you say anything about a gift? me - yes. I told her that we wouldn't be getting him one, which she also said would be okay. He doesn't need anymore toys anyway. him - well she told my mom this morning that we weren't getting a gift for him and she thought it was rude. me - I don't care what she thinks and if this is the way she felt, then she should have told me. Besides the fact that I wasn't VAGUE in the least. How much clearer could I possibly be. We will be at a FUNERAL this weekend, and if not we will be with my FAMILY! How is that vague? Can you please tell me? him - honey calm down. It's okay. You don't need this extra stress. I shouldn't even have told you. I just wanted to know what you said to her. me - you're right I don't need any of this extra stress. I don't care what she thinks, I just wish she wouldn't back stab me. Don't tell me it's okay and then go whining and crying to your mother because I'm rude. She's rude! She isn't dealing with the stuff I'm dealing with. She's the one that's rude. ~by this time my blood is boiling and I'm about ready to turn into the incredible Hulk.~ him - it's okay, I don't care what she thinks either and I'm going to talk to her today about this. I've had it with her bad mouthing you. It's rude and unacceptable behavior. me - thank you. I really can't deal with this right now so tell her if she has something to say, say it to my face and get off my back about not coming to her stupid party and not bringing her bratty obnoxious kid a present and I'm SOOOO sorry for being vague and such a terrible rude person and not giving her a reason why we won't be there when really it's none of her damned business in the first place.....(insert heavy breathing here. after that sentence I had to catch up.) him - my other line is ringing. I'll talk to you later. ~~~ By the time John called me back I had cooled off enough that I was no longer green. I was just annoyed. John says to not worry about it, so I guess I won't. He has talked to her and I guess she is okay. She is okay, because John basically told her, you have no other choice than to be okay with this, because I won't put up with this kind of crap. ~~~ Issue solved, it just stills irks me to no end. At this point I'm feeling like I just want to avoid her. I don't need her stressful and negative attitude affecting me. I refuse to put myself in that kind of a situation. Okay, enough venting for one day. I better get back to work. Glad that I'm a fast typist, otherwise this would have taken forever. ~~~~~~~~~~ I'll be updating the situation with Grandma as time and my emotions permit. Thank you all for your kind words and prayers for our family. We are truly grateful for your sentiments! ~~~~~~~~~~

Thursday Thirteen - my blessing

Thirteen things about my daughter Kathryn 1. She gave my husband another reason to live. 2. She pulled my mom out of her depression and gave her newfound joy. 3. She is the first great grandaughter in our family. 4. She is the first great, great, grandaughter in our family. 5. She is a peacemaker 6. She brings joy to our home. 7. She has a smile that will melt your heart. 8. She is stubborn, kind of like me. 9. When she wants something she knows how to get it. 10. I don't know what I would do without her. 11. She helped me fall in love with my husband all over again. 12. She is always so happy and easy going 13. She is a wonderful treasure straight from our Heavenly Father above. Links to other Thursday Thirteen's! Please only link if you have a CURRENT thursday thirteen. Comments not required! Thanks for stopping by!